Making decisions about being sexually active can affect your life. Getting involved with someone who unknowingly spreads a sexually transmitted disease can ruin your chances of having children when you want to. It is important in a relationship to talk to each other especially about feelings toward sex. Many couples decide not to include sexual intercourse in their relationship because of the risks, or because they are not ready. It is important to remember that choosing abstinence from sex also means abstaining from drinking alcohol and from drug use. Both of these substances affect your decision making and can allow someone to talk you into something you didn't plan to do.